Disappointment doesn't begin to describe my feelings towards the fall out from Friday's episode of ESPN's First Take. but not surprised by the negative attention that Michelle Beadle brought Stephen A. Smith’s comments. This provides another classic example of how genuine urban black views are strictly prohibited according to American mainstream television. Although Stephen A. Smith must tiptoe around his points within the framework of this topic (from hereafter as well), we here at hiphopandhomeruns.com are not restricted with the same company code of conduct when it comes to being real. We will attempt to methodically clarify for Ms. Beadle exactly what Stephen A was trying to do so eloquently.
Lets start with the facts
This is what Stephen A Smith did say
Sorry to disrupt the general belief but women sometimes however do indeed provoke actions and all that Stephen A was trying to explain is how he advises his female family members to restrain from conflict to the best of their ability, by not behaving as a catalyst to domestic disputes. The same reason why Michelle Beadle did not understand his comments provides the platform for the same ignorance that separates the upbringing of children in the urban community versus the White american family, particularly raising white females.
What Stephen A touched on is a consistent message from many black fathers and role models to their daughters in our urban communities. The theory of “not placing yourself in harm’s way” rings loud and clear. Many themes and messages are preached during our upbringing, but one message in particular is repeated in the young urban household mainly because of past unfair prejudices and our constant struggle to play catch up in American societal norms. We preach to our youth the message of discretion. Part of knowing and behaving with discretion is the ability to comprehend the things that will hurt you so you can avoid them. We do not try to pretend that domestic violence is not real or prevalent in our community. But we do accept the notion that there are people who know how to psychologically trigger certain emotions. Some women can induce certain outbursts based on the history of the relationship. The notion that women can be manipulative is one that should not be censored from mainstream television, but Michelle Beadle along with countless others are naive to believe that the female gender exercises silence and peaceful protests when it comes to domestic disputes. Is this not the same theory of “being in the nightclub after 12am..”. Is it fair or right for an athlete to become physically assaulted, shot, or stabbed because he chooses to club late? No, of course not. But the question remains are they putting themselves at risk?” Well, yes they are. Here is a similar analogy, you may be a great driver but you cannot assume those driving around you are. As a result in order to mitigate risk it is best to be a defensive driver. In this instance, defensive driving is what we preach in our communities and neighborhoods. Don’t condemn a positive black role model in our community for sharing intimate urban views. Maybe if we took the time to educate our youths on the cultural differences amongst our communities we would have better comprehension and an open mind towards breaking social barriers.
Some people spread messages, others move social change and Stephen A. Smith is one that impacts social change. No matter if you are white or black, or any race for that matter. We must band together when the ignorance of society attempts to bring down our powerful leaders, especially when they are minorities.
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